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Questioner: [what do you mean by] Unintentional grooming? Questioner: explain further pls cuz i’ve thought about that but never like- processed it fully >> I am doing my best to avoid getting really psychological here, but the basis of the concept is that the human mind avoids thinking about things that threaten your sense of self and reality. This is a well-documented and extremely strong instinct. So like, people don't automatically assume that they are doing something bad. Nearly every person will seek out and find justifications for everything they do. A 40 yo isn't going to suddenly get up and say, "I've never had an interest in younger people before, but I suddenly want to take advantage of someone's naivety." Becoming an asshole like that is a process shaped by exposure to the abuse of others (not usually direct abuse, surprisingly) and being enabled by social expectations and unfettered access. They do not believe that they are doing anythin...

this woman could use some respite... "...my neighbors are very nice people. Step away from negative media for a bit and realize the US isn’t some asylum and that most people are good, normal people. Don’t let outrage and hysteric media taint your perspective." Even you will only say "most" people, not all people, because you recognize that it only takes one person to kill 100 others in the space of five minutes. If even 1% of the population is a threat, we are all at risk. You've heard, possibly even said the phrase "this is why we can't have nice things", haven't you? To be quite clear, in my experience "most" people are only kind and compassionate to the people in their in-group. They are cold and uncaring if you are an outsider. Even as a privileged white woman, the abuse and exclusion I've received for my disability and my neurodivergence has taught me that this country is an unkind one, that the norm is to be an a...